Yes, it is!
I don’t want to lie to you by saying that everything will be easy and you will find your comrades on the same day that you land in a new place. I’m sure the world is full of cool people who are willing to help and be there when needed. But not all of them are right for you, and you’re not right for all of them.
Therefore, before you find your people and been accepted and understood by them, you will have to experience a huge number of different feelings: loneliness, despair, misunderstanding of other culture and even lack of self-understanding.
And that’s totally okay! For example, I am generally an introvert, but all my previous work was related to people, so I know how to be open, active, where to look for new acquaintances and create long-term friendships. But even for me, the experience of building relationship in the UK has been and still continues to be stressful and very difficult. It’s really harder for locals to let foreigners into their personal emotional space (I’ll tell about it more detailed another time), so sometimes it can feel like you’re alone, even when you already have a formed community of people around you.
But nothing is impossible. Here are my 5 tips on how to make friends with someone:
1Don’t be afraid to communicate with people everywhere. In the park, shop, queue, museum, restaurant, beach, bus, go to the university campus, etc. I know it can be hard, but do it even through embarrassment and awkwardness, be open to the world.
2.Don’t stay at home! Go outside every day, in the evening or even at night, every time you feel lonely (but never forget about your safety).
3.Attend free events: concerts, exhibitions, lessons, courses, lectures, meetings, walking tours
4.Download apps to share knowledge. Show people your interest and goodwill. Get sincere pleasure from learning something new, be interested in different things. 5.Join volunteer activities.
Enjoy and remember that it’s just a big game named life and you can make it as fun as you wish. Keep trying and you’ll find your besties for sure!